That's Phony! - January 10, 2020
"I couldn't put my arm around her and hug her if I wasn't feeling like it. That would be phony."
Now imagine you're a golfer, but not a good one. You finally decide to take some lessons, even though you've been playing for fifteen years. The pro says, "You're holding the club wrong. You must change your grip radically if you hope to improve."
So you put your hands as he instructs, and you swing at a ball. It feels awkward and unnatural. You think, "I can't hit that way, it's phony! It makes me very uncomfortable. I don't feel right this way."
Obviously, however, if you're going to improve, you have to endure a period of discomfort until it begins to feel good.
That's how it is with the hug in the opening quotation above. If the hug is appropriate; if it is needed and possible, it should be given! regardless of the discomfort the hugger may feel. With practice it may not feel so bad—it might even feel good.
Paying compliments, speaking up, thanking people—these action are not to await our feelings. They are part of giving—part of being a responsible person toward others. They are often more a matter of will than of emotions—more duty than feelings. This conscientious approach to others is essential in creating a healing community. "Love One Another!" is not amended by the words "when you feel like it."
I remember a man at a State Hospital. His I.Q. was incredibly low. So low that I felt I wasn't bright enough to communicate clearly with him. After each worship service, however, he came up to me and said, "Very good. Very good." Even though I knew he didn't understand a word of the sermon, I found myself cheered by his words.
I doubt that doing good, helping someone else, cheering another person, even when you don't feel like it, can ever be called phony.
Immeasurable kindness and healing is possible through supportive actions which arise willingly from people who are determined to care about others . . . . . . In spite of uncomfortable feelings!
There Are Hurting People Around Us
The issues portrayed in the video are only a small slice of the burdens that people around us are facing. The mission of Care and Kindness Ministries is to increase everyone's awareness of the fact that they are surrounded by hurting people; to offer hope and encouragement to persons who are facing trials and difficulties.
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