Infertility

 As a woman, it’s hard to describe the feelings you feel when your body is not doing what it was made to do. It’s hard not to compare yourself to the fertile friends around you. There are probably days when you are so consumed by sadness and weariness that you cry yourself to sleep.

Learning to process and mourn the feelings of despair and loss, however, both individually and as a couple, can help you in ways that would never have happened without the presence of this pain. No one knows how this journey will end; no one knows whether your dream of starting a family will come to fruition. But opening up your heart to others can lead to an incredible outpouring of love and support that will flood your heart, giving you strength in the darkest of times.

The resources listed below can be helpful. They are in the form of articles that Jim Kok has written, relevant postings from our 'Thoughts from Jim' column, recommended books written by Jim Kok, and helpful scripture verses.

Articles from Care Capsules

Cracked Pots

Do You Have To Be Asked?

Don't Keep Everything Secret

Just Walk With Me

My Yellow Blankie

Recommended Books

Miracle of Kindness (Chapter 3)

Thoughts from Jim

Just Walk With Me

Positive Proof About Prayer

What Prayer Looks Like

Stop Worrying; The Lord Holds On To You

Stop Worrying; The Lord Holds On To You - Part 2

Turning Junk Into Good Stuff

Happiness is Possible

We have blamed God too much!

Ten 'Goods' that Emerge from Deep Hurts

Big Smile, Long Life

Life Is God's Gift

Select Scripture verses

Genesis 11:30 Sarai was not able to have children.
Genesis 17:3 Then God said to him, “This is my covenant with you: You’ll be the father of many nations. Your name will no longer be Abram, but Abraham, meaning that ‘I’m making you the father of many nations.’
Genesis 17:15,16 God continued speaking to Abraham, “And Sarai your wife: Don’t call her Sarai any longer; call her Sarah. I’ll bless her—yes! I’ll give you a son by her! Oh, how I’ll bless her! Nations will come from her; kings of nations will come from her.
Genesis 21:1-4 God visited Sarah exactly as he said he would; God did to Sarah what he promised: Sarah became pregnant and gave Abraham a son

Matthew 5:4 You’re blessed when you feel you’ve lost what is most dear to you. Only then can you be embraced by the One most dear to you.

Psalm 30:4-5 You who are faithful to the Lord, sing praises to him; give thanks to his holy name! …Weeping may stay all night, but by morning, joy!

Psalm 147:3-6 He heals the heartbroken and bandages their wounds. He counts the stars and assigns each a name. Our Lord is great, with limitless strength; we’ll never comprehend what he knows and does. God puts the fallen on their feet again and pushes the wicked into the ditch.

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OFFERING CARE TO THOSE STRUGGLING WITH INFERTILITY

Infertility is a word that evokes many concerns and questions, but, unfortunately, very few answers. Cause: unknown. Cure: unknown. But it is an issue that many find is entering their lives. Walking the path with couples who are dealing with this can be the most important and supportive element you can offer.

Your simple love for them and your compassion for the pain they feel will be a reassurance that they are not alone.

Resources available from Care and Kindness Ministries are in the form of articles that Jim Kok has written, relevant postings from our 'Thoughts from Jim' column, recommended books written by Jim Kok, and helpful scripture verses. Draw from them to better equip yourself to offer help, love, and support to these couples.

Articles from Care Capsules

90% of Helping Is Just Showing Up!

The Vision Comes ALIVE!

Care For Me

Carpe Diem

Check Your Story At The Door

Cracked Pots

Dare to Care

Do Not Take My Pain From Me

Do Tell Your Story!

Do You Have To Be Asked?

Do You Have Two Ears? Or Three?

Do You Notice My Pain?

Does It Really Show?

Don't Cheer Me Up

Don't Keep Everything Secret

It's Not What I Say

Just Being There

Just Walk With Me

My Yellow Blankie

Naming The Elephant

Start with Listening

Weep With Those Who Weep

Words Make A Difference

Recommended Books

Miracle of Kindness (Chapter 3)

Thoughts from Jim

Check Your Story At The Door

Just Walk With Me

Be 'Care'-full (Part2)

Be 'Care'-full (Part 3)

Positive Proof About Prayer

The Gift of Tears

What Prayer Looks Like

Listening Is Not Easy

Don't Just Do Something. Stand There!

More Acts of Care and Kindness

God Heals. We Walk Along Side.

A Major Mistake When Helping the Hurting

10 Tips for Helping a Hurting Person

You Are Far More Than You Think You Are !

Select Scripture verses

Luke 6:37 Don’t pick on people, jump on their failures, criticize their faults—unless, of course, you want the same treatment. Don’t condemn those who are down; that hardness can boomerang. Be easy on people; you’ll find life a lot easier.

1 Peter 4:10 Love makes up for practically anything. Be quick to give a meal to the hungry, a bed to the homeless—cheerfully. Be generous with the different things God gave you, passing them around so all get in on it: if words, let it be God’s words; if help, let it be God’s hearty help. That way, God’s bright presence will be evident in everything.

Romans 12:15 Laugh with your happy friends when they’re happy; share tears when they’re down.

1 Corinthians 13: 4-7 Love is patient, love is kind, it isn’t jealous, it doesn’t brag, it isn’t arrogant, it isn’t rude, it doesn’t seek its own advantage, it isn’t irritable, it doesn’t keep a record of complaints, it isn’t happy with injustice, but it is happy with the truth. Love puts up with all things, trusts in all things, hopes for all things, endures all things.

Psalm 30:4-5 You who are faithful to the Lord, sing praises to him; give thanks to his holy name! …Weeping may stay all night, but by morning, joy!

Psalm 147:3-6 He heals the heartbroken and bandages their wounds. He counts the stars and assigns each a name. Our Lord is great, with limitless strength; we’ll never comprehend what he knows and does. GOD puts the fallen on their feet again and pushes the wicked into the ditch.