There is an urge among human beings to deny others their pain. If I sprain my ankle, someone will quickly advise me to “be happy it isn’t broken.” I have seldom found that to be an effective anesthetic. It still hurts! At the very foundation of the concept of caring, there lies a principle that feels counter-intuitive. At least counter to most of our past experiences. That principle is this: allow people to feel their pain. Don’t deny them this necessary step in heali